Tag: Insecurity
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When Polyamory Triggers Abuse
I have said before—and I stand by it—that polyamory is not abusive. Unfortunately, starting a polyamorous relationship, or opening up an existing relationship, can be a trigger for abuse. And if you’ve read about the roots of abuse, you know why. One of the causes of abuse is insecurity. Some people are insecure in their…
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Roots of Abuse: Intent, Insecurity, and Shitty Boundaries
In popular imagination, abusers are fully aware of what they are doing. They are horrid people who act with full intent to control and destroy the people they claim to love. A modern monster for a modern society. The reality of abuse is much more complicated. While some abusers make a conscious decision to abuse,…