Tag: Closeted
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The Polya Bystander: I Just Want to Be Left Alone
Updated version of the article first appearing on Postmodern Woman. If there’s one thing that helps keep polya people from experiencing discrimination like other minorities, it’s that there’s often some sense of privacy. For many people, they can practice their non-monogamy in relative peace. They can simply spend less time with any possible family that…
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Polyamory Etiquette: Meeting Family About Town
The great thing about living in a small town or close-knit neighborhood is you are always running into people you know. The terrifying thing about being poly in a small town or close-knit neighborhood is…you are always running into people you know. Meeting your SOs parents for the first time is always interesting. Meeting your…
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The First Rule of Polyamory Etiquette: Don’t Be Afraid to Ask
Next week we’ll start on tips and guidelines for dealing with specific situations. For now, I want to address an important point that is more important than anything else I will say about etiquette. When it comes to social situations involving your poly partners, or their poly partners, don’t be afraid to ask. “How would…
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The Building Blocks of Polyamory Etiquette
As I said last week, etiquette is basically the customary way people interact. While etiquette experts can lay down “rules” for the socially inept, these “rules” change all the time as culture and society change. All customs are based on some part of the culture they spring from. This includes etiquette. In the US today,…
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When Your Kids Discover Your Closeted Polyamorous Relationship
(To keep things simple, this post has been written in terms of two parent households. The most of the same issues and choices will apply regardless of your family set up.) The big problem with being closeted is that you can be outed. While some folks managed to stay closeted for decades, that’s the exception…