Polyamory on Purpose Archive

Category: Polyamory

  • What is Abuse?

    Before we can talk about abuse in polyamory, we need to talk about what abuse is. Before starting this post, I did some googling on what is abuse, and the definition of abuse. Many of the definitions didn’t really apply to abuse within relationships. For instance, the Oxford Dictionary online defines abuse as: 1 Use…

  • Introducing Your Polyamory Partners to Your Children

    If you got here looking for ideas on explaining polyamory to your kids, try this post. I am going to stake out an apparently unconventional opinion here. Are you are talking about moving in together, co-parenting, or otherwise creating a situation where your kids and poly partners would need to relate with each other directly?…

  • Abuse in Polyamory

    For a lot of people, polyamory is a pretty awesome relationship style. But there’s this thing about humans—not matter how awesome something is, we can always find a way to screw it up. Most of the time, we aren’t screwing things up on purpose. We’re just doing our best and making mistakes. Or, as one…

  • Resources for Custody Cases Involving Polyamory

    I don’t have nearly as much to offer here as I’d like. Unfortunately, resources for polyamory, and non-monogamy in general, are still slim on the ground. If you know of any additional resources, please include them in the comments. Dr. Eli Sheff Dr. Sheff is an educational consultant on sexual and relationship minorites. However she is…

  • Child Custody Cases: How to Protect Yourself

    This month we are examining the impact of polyamory on child custody cases. Last week we reviewed who is at risk. This week, we are looking at ways you can protect yourself before and during a custody case. Before a custody case If the most important thing you can do, before any custody case starts,…

  • Child Custody and Polyamory: Who is at Risk

    Losing custody of their children is many parent’s nightmare. And I don’t mean losing custody as in “joint custody where you get your child every other weekend.” Granted, joint custody is rough on everyone, and there are very few parents who would happily opt out of over 50% of their kids’ lives. But at the…

  • Polyamory and Children: Child Custody Review

    In the last three months, I have learned of four custody cases in which polyamory is being used as a reason for taking children away from their parents. That’s more than I’ve heard of in the last three years. So before we get into more generic stuff about raising children in a poly family, we’re…

  • Raising Children in Polyamorous Families

    A few years ago I started writing about raising children in polyamorous families. I was never able to finish the series, because my custody case made it a very painful topic for me. Time, while it doesn’t actually heal anything, does give us a chance to heal. So I’m going back to that old series…

  • Laws and legal practices affecting our children

    If you’re been following this blog for a while, you’ll understand why today’s topic is a personally painful one. I’m not going to go as in depth as a usually do, in an attempt to avoid triggering myself. If anyone else has knowledge or personal experience in this area, please feel free to share in…

  • Hard Boundaries and Soft Boundaries

    Hey folks, sorry for the much delayed post. My family moved on Friday to a new apartment, the first time we’ve had our own apartment in several years, and we finally got internet in today. I had planned on posting from the library during the move, but unfortunately due to the holiday here in the…