Category: Family

  • Meeting Other Polyamorous Families

    For children in minority families, nothing can be so powerful as meeting others like them. As an adoptee, I remember the first time I met other kids who were adopted. For the first time, there were other people who understood, really understood, what it was like. The questions and uncertainties of having other parents out…

  • Book Review: Stories from the Polycule, edited by Dr. Eli Sheff

    I once again owe Eli Sheff an apology. For whatever reason, I am not able to get reviews of her books up in a timely manner. Granted, “timely” is not something I am good at the best of times. With that out of the way, let me actually talk about Stories from the Polycule. Stories…

  • Child Custody and Polyamory: Who is at Risk

    Losing custody of their children is many parent’s nightmare. And I don’t mean losing custody as in “joint custody where you get your child every other weekend.” Granted, joint custody is rough on everyone, and there are very few parents who would happily opt out of over 50% of their kids’ lives. But at the…

  • Laws and legal practices affecting our children

    If you’re been following this blog for a while, you’ll understand why today’s topic is a personally painful one. I’m not going to go as in depth as a usually do, in an attempt to avoid triggering myself. If anyone else has knowledge or personal experience in this area, please feel free to share in…

  • Open Relationships Need House Boundaries, Not House Rules

    In my last post, I touched on why I prefer boundaries to rules, and the way boundaries apply to a lot more than just relationship stuff. Today I’d like to look at poly homes, house rules, and the clusterfuck that can be moving in together. My first triad lived together in a large duplex. We…

  • Polyamory Living Options

    (If you found this post looking for bedroom/sleeping arrangements, click here.) When we talk about living arrangements with poly partners, we usually focus on two options: living together or living apart. There are very few truly binary choices in life. You almost always find a third (or fourth, or fifth, or….) option if you look.…

  • Book Review: Raf and the Robots

    Raf is a young boy who loves to write. He even writes at the dinner table where he sits with his family. A family which includes three adults and two other children. Raf’s latest story is about robots, but when he tries to find someone to read it, no one has time! Thinking no one…

  • Family Meals

    I am a big believer in time for the whole polycule to sit down together and enjoy each other’s company. But as most polies find out eventually, schedules are a bitch. This is definitely a YMMV thing, but I highly suggest added regular family meals to your calendar. If everyone lives together, and work schedules aren’t…

  • Relationship Space

    Every so often I come across a discussion about designating something (Usually a bed, sometimes a restaurant or other outing) as being only for a primary couple. The idea is the primary couple needs something special and just for them, which is off limits to any secondaries (these discussions almost always involve hierarchical poly). These…