Category: Communication
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Helping Our Kids Talk About Polyamory
In an ideal world, no one would be asking our kids about our relationships because private stuff is private stuff and grown-up stuff is grown up stuff. But as one of my favorite authors points out: “No thinking adult would ask a kid about this stuff, but that just means you’ll need to deal with…
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Should You Tell Your Kids About Polyamory?
For polyamorous parents, choosing whether or not to let our kids know about our relationships is a major decision. There are pros and cons to both choices. I generally believe you are better off being open with your kids, unless there is some compelling reason not to. Other people will advise the opposite—don’t tell your…
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Introducing Your Polyamory Partners to Your Children
If you got here looking for ideas on explaining polyamory to your kids, try this post. I am going to stake out an apparently unconventional opinion here. Are you are talking about moving in together, co-parenting, or otherwise creating a situation where your kids and poly partners would need to relate with each other directly?…
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Hard Boundaries and Soft Boundaries
Hey folks, sorry for the much delayed post. My family moved on Friday to a new apartment, the first time we’ve had our own apartment in several years, and we finally got internet in today. I had planned on posting from the library during the move, but unfortunately due to the holiday here in the…
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Poly Advice for the Mentally Ill: “Communicate, Communicate, Communicate”
Standard Poly advice: Communicate, Communicate, Communicate Nothing is more important to a healthy relationship than communication. If we aren’t keeping our SOs in the loop about how we feel and what is going on with us, then small problems will become big problems until someone comes home from work to find their stuff sitting on…