Category: Communication
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Explaining Polyamory: The Wrap Up
Not much to fix here. Added a few links and fixed some typos/grammar. Updated 9/28/17 So far, we’ve covered an introduction to the Culture Gap, preparations, discussion, and possible reactions. Hopefully, hitting the high points of stuff you should know before explaining your relationship choose to friends or family. The good news is, the more…
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Explaining Polyamory: Negative Reactions
Mostly grammar and typo fixes here, but I also updated info on how things turned out for me when I got some of these reactions and removed some of emphasis on being polite to people who are being assholes. While I still believe that being polite to people you love who are reacting badly can…
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Explaining Polyamory: Positive Reactions
I updated the suggested resources here. And let me say it’s amazing and wonderful how many more resources for explaining and exploring polyamory there are in the just the five years since I wrote this post. Not much edits otherwise. Neither human nature nor culture have changed enough in the past five years to make…
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Explaining Polyamory: the Conversation
Mostly grammar and typo corrections here, but I also needed to clean up some ableist language. Some of the example discussions were tweaked so there is less focus on triads. The reference to Sister Wives really dates this post, but I decided against changing it. If you are having this conversation today there are many…
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Explaining Polyamory: Preparation
Minor edits for grammar and readability. Not much has changed here. 7/13/2017 Sorry for the late update. Last week I introduced the Culture Gap, which has a huge influence on how people react to polyamory. This week I’m going to get into some of the how-tos for explaining polyamory. And if anyone has any suggestions…
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Explaining Polyamory: The Culture Gap
Mostly some typo and grammar fixes here, but I also clarified the importance and right to self care when dealing with people who don’t believe that polyamory can be a viable relationship. June 29, 2017 Had some kind of tech glitch that kept this from posting last Thursday, so It’s going live today instead. Sorry…
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Polyamory and Children: What do I call Mom’s Boyfriend?
Changed to be inclusive of a wider variety of relationship styles and less heteronormative. Also fixed some typos. Updated June 7, 2017. Step-parent, aunt, Jennie, Pop, Ma’am, Mr. Smith . . . Basic rule of thumb: kids need a label for the adults in their lives. A box to put the adult in so they…
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5 Reasons Cishet Polya Folks Probably Shouldn’t Claim to Be Queer, Even Though You May Really Want To
Apologies for the late post; it’s been an eventful day! Here is an updated article originally published on Postmodern Woman. Yay polyamory! Non-Monogamy has been making the rounds lately as the “mainstream” (read straight, USian or British or Canadian, cis, and usually white) discover that love doesn’t have to be as limiting and lonely as…
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Abuse Culture Tips: Questions and Thoughts to Keep in Mind
Updated version of an article originally published on Medium. When it comes to abuse, there’s much confusion surrounding what to do, who to blame, etc. In polyamory, this can be further complicated by the amount of people involved and how they are involved. But never fear; there are some things to keep in mind no…
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Telling Your Children about Polyamory
Not much changed here on the main topic, but original version was pretty heterocentric. I’ve tried to correct that and be more inclusive of single-parent families. Revised 3/26/17 Children who are born into a polyamorous relationship do not need anyone to explain their parents’ relationships, any more than children born into a monogamous relationship. Because they…