Category: Old Stuff
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Minority Representation in Polyamory Fics and Pics
School has severely sapped my spoons. So we’re going to take another break from talking about mental illness. A year and a half ago I did a short series on representation of polyamorous/non-monogamous LG&T folks in fiction and art. I’m going to pick that series up again looking at other under-represented groups. My goal is…
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The Impact of Executive Dysfunction on Relationships
(The last part of Schizophrenia and PTSD is giving me trouble, so you’re getting next Sunday’s post a week early. Enjoy.) Executive dysfunction is associated with major depressive disorder, bipolar disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, ADHD, ADD, schizophrenia, autism, and Parkinson’s disease. It is probably found in numerous other contexts as well, but that’s a long…
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Everyone’s Safe Sex Definition is Different
A few weeks ago, I said that safe sex is like safe driving. You do your best to keep yourself safe and take reasonable precautions, but there are no guaranteeing. Sex is like driving in another way. Some people are comfortable driving in Le Mans and the Indie 500, some won’t go over 55 mph…
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Face It: We’ve All Got Baggage
I’m delving a bit more into dating advice than I’m really comfortable with today, but there’s an issue I’ve skirted around in a few places that recently smacked me between the eyes. And I’m calling bullshit. A common trope of polyamory is the desire for “drama-free” relationships. The desire to avoid partners with lots of…
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Course of Treatment: Getting a Diagnosis
Once you’ve made the decision to get help, the first step is usually setting up an appointment with a doctor or counselor. Some people will go to a family doctor or general practitioner first, others will go straight to a psychiatrist. Some set up counselling through their employer, school, or religious organization. In the US,…
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Moving in Together: Personal Space
This may be a personal quirk, but I firmly believe everyone needs some personal space, a spot in their home that is “theirs.” Much like Virginia Woolf’s “A Room of One’s Own,” but it may actually be a chair, a spot on the porch, a corner of the attic, or any place else that works. Unsurprisingly, introverts…