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AMaP Call for Presenters

Accessible Multi-linking and Polyamory is a new online conference that will debut in Nov 2017. The goal of AMaP is to provide a place where people who cannot attend conventional polyamory conferences or who do not feel welcome at conventional polyamory conferences can come together to connect, to learn, and to build community.

AMaP will be using Zoom, the audio-visual conferencing app, to connect presenters with attendees. Zoom works on all major operating systems and can also be accessed by phone. Because of the nature of the conference, presenters and attendees will be able to remain anonymous while participating as much or as little as they want.

We invite you to submit a workshop proposal and share your experiences, insights, projects and ideas related to multi-linking in all it’s forms. The conference will take place in the cloud Nov 3-5.

Our debut conference theme is Silenced Voices. Whether you

  • have been silenced due to an unpopular opinion
  • from oppression
  • have been literally silenced by an injury or illness
  • struggle to communicate due to neurodivergence or mental illness
  • know about historical approaches to multi-linking that have been forgotten or erased

we want to hear from you!

Proposals not related to the theme of Silenced Voices are also welcome.

Full details and link to presenter application here.

Time to Talk about Linking

As some of you know, I’ve teamed up with Michon Neal of PostModern Woman to start an online conference—Accessible Multi-linking and Polyamory. As part of putting this conference together, we coined new terminology for referring to having intimate connections with multiple people.

Multi-linking—(n)
from multi (many) + linking (connecting, relating)
the personal quality or practice of co-creating or wanting to co-create intimate connections with multiple people. Connections may be romantic, aromantic, sexual, asexual, platonic, kinky, or take other forms of intimacy. Connections can last a few hours or a lifetime. The nature of connections are determined only by the individuals who are connected.
“I prefer multi-linking to monogamy. I like to have lots of different relationships and intimacies.”

Multi-link—(v) to intimately connect with multiple people. Connections may be romantic, aromantic, sexual, asexual, platonic, kinky, or take other forms of intimacy. Connections can last a few hours or a lifetime. The number and nature of connections are determined only by the individuals who are connected.
“I multi-link. Right now I’m partners with Dan, nesting with Gloria and sub to Jesse. There are also several people I don’t have defined links with, but who are part of my chosen family.”

Link—(n) an intimate connection with another person. Connections may be romantic, aromantic, sexual, asexual, platonic, kinky, or take other forms of intimacy. Connections can last a few hours or a lifetime. The number and nature of connections are determined only by the individuals who are connected.
“I prefer having one stable long term link and lots of fun and exciting short term links. My friend Jen wants to find several people to link with for long term.”

Mutli-linking—(adj) of or relating to multi-linking (n).
“Our multi-linking Facebook group is usually pretty active.”

I’ve avoided using multi-linking and link on this blog partly because A) this is still a polyamory blog and B) introducing new terminology always causes confusion and I didn’t want to do that when I didn’t have the spoons to keep up with the blog.

But I’m finding myself increasingly frustrated with the assumptions built into using “relationship” and “partner”. So I’m making the break. This blog will start using “link” for an intimate connection with another person and “connection” for the person you are connected with.

I am linked with Michael. Michael is my connection. Our link has lasted nearly 8 years. (Wow, it’s really been that long already…) I am also linked with Candi and Michon. Polyamory is my preferred form of multi-linking.

For the next few weeks I’ll be linking (the internet version 😉 ) back to this page when I use ‘link’ or ‘connection’ in a post. Hopefully this will smooth the transition and reduce the confusion.

The Accessible Multi-linking and Polyamory Virtual Con

Last Fall, Michon Neal, Louisa Leontiades, and I were talking about how frustrated we were with not being able to get to any of the polyamory cons. Louisa because of living in Europe, Michon and I from a combination of money and chronic illness. Well, we decided if we couldn’t attend the conferences other people were putting on, we’d make our own.

So, AMaP was born. We’ve spent the past several months putting plans together, finding the necessary tech to host a virtual con and all the other little details. We recently recruited Cassandra Perry, who has experience with accessibility tech, to help us make the con as accessible to people with visual and hearing impairments as possible given technology and budget. We still have a lot of work to do, but we’re ready to announce our plans to the world. So here it is:

The Accessible Multi-linking and Polyamory Virtual Con

A conference for and about multi-linking and polyamory that anyone with a phone or internet access can attend.
A conference that will have a strong focus on diversity and on how disability, poverty, race, and other intersections affect our relationships and lifestyles.
A conference where you can be keep your privacy and still participate, because no one will see your face or hear your voice unless YOU want them too.

The conference will be running November 3-5. Tickets will go on sale over the summer.

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What’s this ‘multi-linking’ thing you keep talking about?

Thanks for asking!
Michon, Louisa and I wanted this con to be welcoming to everyone who is or wants to be intimately connected to more than one person. We didn’t want to use “non-monogamy” because that’s continuing to define ourselves by what we aren’t. So we decided to come up with a term that defined us by what we are.
As they say in Britain, we settled on multi-linking because it “does what is says on the tin.” Linking—connecting or relating, multi—many. Having many connections or relationships. Romantic, aromantic, kinky, sexual, asexual, platonic lifebonded, temporary or life long, if you intimately connect, however you choose to define those connections, with many people, there is room for you in the multi-linking umbrella.

The official definition:

Multi-linking—(n)
from multi (many) + linking (connecting, relating)
the personal quality or practice of co-creating or wanting to co-create intimate connections with multiple people. Connections may be romantic, aromantic, sexual, asexual, platonic, kinky, or take other forms of intimacy. Connections can last a few hours or a lifetime. The nature of connections are determined only by the individuals who are connected.
“I prefer multi-linking to monogamy. I like to have lots of different relationships and intimacies.”

Multi-link—(v) to intimately connect with multiple people. Connections may be romantic, aromantic, sexual, asexual, platonic, kinky, or take other forms of intimacy. Connections can last a few hours or a lifetime. The number and nature of connections are determined only by the individuals who are connected.
“I multi-link. Right now I’m partners with Dan, nesting with Gloria and sub to Jesse. There are also several people I don’t have defined links with, but who are part of my chosen family.”

Link—(n) an intimate connection with another person. Connections may be romantic, aromantic, sexual, asexual, platonic, kinky, or take other forms of intimacy. Connections can last a few hours or a lifetime. The number and nature of connections are determined only by the individuals who are connected.
“I prefer having one stable long term link and lots of fun and exciting short term links. My friend Jen wants to find several people to link with for long term.”

Mutli-linking—(adj) of or relating to multi-linking (n).
“Our multi-linking Facebook group is usually pretty active.”

Your Turn:

What would you like to see in an online con dedicated to diversity and accessibility?

Comment below or message me privately.