Last Fall, Michon Neal, Louisa Leontiades, and I were talking about how frustrated we were with not being able to get to any of the polyamory cons. Louisa because of living in Europe, Michon and I from a combination of money and chronic illness. Well, we decided if we couldn’t attend the conferences other people were putting on, we’d make our own.
So, AMaP was born. We’ve spent the past several months putting plans together, finding the necessary tech to host a virtual con and all the other little details. We recently recruited Cassandra Perry, who has experience with accessibility tech, to help us make the con as accessible to people with visual and hearing impairments as possible given technology and budget. We still have a lot of work to do, but we’re ready to announce our plans to the world. So here it is:
A conference for and about multi-linking and polyamory that anyone with a phone or internet access can attend.
A conference that will have a strong focus on diversity and on how disability, poverty, race, and other intersections affect our relationships and lifestyles.
A conference where you can be keep your privacy and still participate, because no one will see your face or hear your voice unless YOU want them too.
The conference will be running November 3-5. Tickets will go on sale over the summer.
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What’s this ‘multi-linking’ thing you keep talking about?
Thanks for asking!
Michon, Louisa and I wanted this con to be welcoming to everyone who is or wants to be intimately connected to more than one person. We didn’t want to use “non-monogamy” because that’s continuing to define ourselves by what we aren’t. So we decided to come up with a term that defined us by what we are.
As they say in Britain, we settled on multi-linking because it “does what is says on the tin.” Linking—connecting or relating, multi—many. Having many connections or relationships. Romantic, aromantic, kinky, sexual, asexual, platonic lifebonded, temporary or life long, if you intimately connect, however you choose to define those connections, with many people, there is room for you in the multi-linking umbrella.
The official definition:
from multi (many) + linking (connecting, relating)
the personal quality or practice of co-creating or wanting to co-create intimate connections with multiple people. Connections may be romantic, aromantic, sexual, asexual, platonic, kinky, or take other forms of intimacy. Connections can last a few hours or a lifetime. The nature of connections are determined only by the individuals who are connected.
“I prefer multi-linking to monogamy. I like to have lots of different relationships and intimacies.”
Multi-link—(v) to intimately connect with multiple people. Connections may be romantic, aromantic, sexual, asexual, platonic, kinky, or take other forms of intimacy. Connections can last a few hours or a lifetime. The number and nature of connections are determined only by the individuals who are connected.
“I multi-link. Right now I’m partners with Dan, nesting with Gloria and sub to Jesse. There are also several people I don’t have defined links with, but who are part of my chosen family.”
Link—(n) an intimate connection with another person. Connections may be romantic, aromantic, sexual, asexual, platonic, kinky, or take other forms of intimacy. Connections can last a few hours or a lifetime. The number and nature of connections are determined only by the individuals who are connected.
“I prefer having one stable long term link and lots of fun and exciting short term links. My friend Jen wants to find several people to link with for long term.”
Mutli-linking—(adj) of or relating to multi-linking (n).
“Our multi-linking Facebook group is usually pretty active.”
What would you like to see in an online con dedicated to diversity and accessibility?
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